Online dating has become a huge business. In fact, it is estimated that 70% of single people in the United States have tried online dating. If you’re not using online dating, it is likely you have a friend who is. Online dating is quickly becoming the most common way that couples meet. Over a third of all marriages in the United States last year began through online dating and that figure is expected to grow. It is little wonder that online dating has become so popular with the ability to search through the profiles of thousands of other single people who you otherwise would never meet. However, is online dating actually a good thing?
The statistics would suggest that it is, with major online dating sites proudly displaying the thousands of couple who have found love on their home page. Ask someone who has found love using online dating and they’ll tell you how great it is to be able to browse someone’s profile before chatting to them and then being able to get to know them online before arranging to meet. They might tell you how they were matched with a partner using a complicated algorithm provided by the website. They’ll cheer about the ability to sort people by location, interests, height, weight, hair color, beliefs, and countless other filters.
However, this world of online dating has taken away something which is essential at the beginning of any relationship. It is a connection which can’t be felt through a profile picture taken at a complimentary angle or a funny tag line under a username. The connection is something which doesn’t transfer through a computer screen during online chat. It isn’t recognizable when browsing through uploaded pictures. The connection is felt when spending physical time with a person.
This connection is about subtle clues in a person’s body language. The way they look at you or smile or gently touch your arm when you say something funny. These physical actions are ones which have been used by mankind for hundreds and thousands of years. They are instinctual ways to display affection towards someone in a publically subtle, yet privately obvious manner.
Trying to find love online eliminates any form of physical human interaction. It takes away those subtle clues which can get your heart racing. Perhaps it reflects how we are becoming as a society. It seems the days of going around to your friend’s house for a chat are behind us. These days everyone communicates through text messages or online chat. The same has become applicable for dating, with human interaction taking a back seat to convenience and chatting through a computer screen.
Trying to find love is something which is natural to us all. Everyone wants to love and be loved by somebody special. However, with online dating it has almost become a case of ‘go online and find it’, instead of letting the process happen naturally through a physical connection. This isn’t to say there is no possibility of finding love through online dating, the statistics above show it is very possible. However, online dating shouldn’t take the place of real social interaction with potential partners.